Tuesday, February 26, 2013
Do Not Escape!
In this life trials will surely come. If you have lived a relatively problem free life up to this point….great! I’m happy for you. I am not a gloom and doom person but, I will say that everyone eventually goes through a period in their life where they are faced with a great trial or tragedy. When they do, they will experience a great deal of emotional pain. What do you do then? I have had my share of pain over the course of my life. From rejection to cancer, we have experienced it all! What do you do when faced with pain like this? I have come up with some do’s and don’ts that might help. DON’T escape your pain. It’s easy to just pull the covers up over your head and sleep. That’s escaping. Watching tv or movies a lot, is escaping. Spending all your time on the computer is escaping. Anything that takes away your time, energy and connectedness to your pain is escaping. DON’T Ignore your pain. Again…avoiding it, ignoring it, not feeling it. Don’t ignore your pain. It will eventually come in at full force for you to deal with. Think of all the wisdom you could be gleaning along the way, by facing it daily! DON’T react to your pain. How easy it is to start blaming someone for your pain. Finding weaknesses and things to criticize is not handling your pain. You will only make matters worse. You’ll be hurting more and you will be hurting those around you as well. DON’T medicate your pain. This is one that is very tempting. How easy it is to just have 2 or 3 more glasses of wine! Maybe you have access to pain pills! Numbing yourself to the point of not being aware of your pain is wrong. You can’t avoid the situation by medicating yourself to the point of numbness. You pain will still be there. DON’T become bitter. Everyone goes through something. Remember….. you are not the only one that is going through a hard time. Everyone you meet is facing a hard battle. I tell you all these because I have done them all to one degree or another. I have one more don’t. “DON’T throw away your confidence which has great reward. For you have need of endurance, so that after you have done the will of God, you may receive the promise:Hebrews 10:35 My confidence is in the Lord almighty. He promised to love and care for his own. He promised that all things would work out together for the good to them that loved God. He promised never to leave us or forsake us. When we stop having confidence in God, we lose our source of strength! We all have a need for endurance! DO Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your path! DO take some time for yourself. Do something you enjoy. This is a good way of releasing stress and recharging your batteries for your journey. DO find someone that you can confide in. Having a trusted friend nearby to share with is a great way to connect with peace. DO find the silver lining in your pain. Look for insights into how the trial is making you stronger. Maybe you have gained insight into life and love. DO ask for help when needed. You are not superman or woman, you cannot do all of it all of the time. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. There are people all around who are kind and compassionate. Restore your trust in the goodness of humanity. Finally…. DON’T waste your pain. Learn from it. Grow in it. Become a better, stronger person because of it. Gain wisdom and insight. Learn to love more deeply. You will become a more compassionate person because of what you have gone through. DON’T medicate your pain ……meditate on HIS plan